Even though you put a video up of the exact passage in the exact conditions….
Next day at 1500, we (a company of 3), against my recommendations, attempted to head from Lymington to Weymouth with Poole as our fallback, in a WSW F6… on mostly an ebb tide.
Exactly the conditions you said not to do it in.

Next day was forecast to be worse and we had hoped to eventually get as far as the Dart.
Nobody wanted to go east (where we should have made for).
We headed for the needles on the end of the flood planning to get through Hurst on near slack and use the tide to get west (even fully expecting the wind over tide).
However, the hype word became "fetch" when our latitude got south of Hurst lighthouse and it hit us. Truly big waves and lots of slamming of our flat footed Hanse 418.
A modicum of sense prevailed and we returned to base and ate the BBC recipe chilli con carne I'd made at home. That bit was a success.

Next day we sat out the gale.
Tuesday we set off for Poole with the chance of passing it for Weymouth or heading there on Wednesday.

An aside bonus here on Tuesday was at Warden, Needles Channel.
No other sail was in sight except one, when
MAIDEN! all alone, majestically bedraggled, rounded the needles, back from it's winning circumnavigation. Unable to get our new compressed air horn functioning from it's blasted packaging, the three of us waved, shouted, cheered and clapped the girls as much of a welcome as we could muster, as they headed thru Hurst toward the sails gathering at Cowes on the horizon.

The Tuesday Poole passage in the WNW F5/6 was hard and slammy but we got there at the cost of our lady member becoming over attached to the boat bucket for most of it.
Next morning (Wed), lots of discussion about the bucket, onward travel westward (but the tides are only 40 minutes different daily and the NE wind strength persistent) or avoiding another extortionate £74 Poole berth cost by exploring brownsea anchorage and heading back next day (Thurs).
I proposed going east NOW instead of a day later… The end of the ebb was due at our berth checkout time of noon. We could get south of the island passage all the way to Bembridge and just about squeak over the bar at dusk.
Wonderful difference. Nobody sick and an ultra fast comfortable, swept along ride to the white knuckle 0.1m Bembridge bar clearance and our home made curry.

Thursday. We scraped over the 0800 top of bembidge tide bar, again by 0.1m, then eased back to Lymington on the ebb tide where our lady partner disembarked a day early. But not before yet again being the only boat to witness Outlaw pass Yarmouth; home from the same race.
Thursday evening we untwisted the self tacking jib sheet and decided we'd need to sail next day to test the new knot 😉.

Friday we had a rock-fouled anchor, again sheltering from the lunchtime NW wind off Hengistbury Head. Probably we hugged it too much.
Our last hurrah was getting it up after an hour of trying different angles and overrunning etc.

Next time our passage will be more head over heart.

I mean, what's the point of watching sailing tips vids if we then completely ignore them?

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